There will always be a time in your life when letting off steam is not enough – you just want to explode and let it all out. You may have good reasons to do so but violence does not make you think clearly and you may regret such actions after things have calmed down. Here are some helpful tips when dealing with anger and stress:
When under stress or experiencing anger, blood pressure rises. Breathing aids in lowering your blood pressure and helps you relax. Breathing replenishes oxygen in your brain too, helping you think clearly.
When in a stressful situation, try breathing properly using these steps:
- Breathe in slowly, pushing your abdomen out as you breathe, then your chest. Imagine your lungs like a water balloon, the bottom part fills out first, then the top.
- As you exhale, imagine all the impurities and negativity leave your body.
- The trick is to breathe in and breathe out long and deep.
Talk to someone
Talking about your problems can help you a lot in dealing with your issues. A trusted friend can provide a fresh insight on the issue and you may realize that the problem is not such a big deal after all. Or your friend may not do anything but listen – sometimes, just hearing yourself talk about this issue makes you feel better.
But just because it makes you feel better to talk about it does not mean you have to do it constantly. Imagine yourself listening to a friend’s gripes and complaints about a certain guy she is dating – all the time. It may be alright for the first few discussions, but if you have been moaning about the same thing over and over again, you may have to start looking for a therapist to help you move on.
Write it down
Keeping a journal helps people who are undergoing psychological trauma and stress deal with their issues. It is also a way of “letting it out”, and just like confiding in a close friend, helps them realize what the real issue is and helps them arrive at their own conclusion.
Some people keep blogs mainly because their thoughts are so fast, writing it down just can’t keep up. Do practice some vigilance when deciding to post your thoughts on a website. Keep it anonymous. Respect the privacy of other people if they are involved in your stressful situation. Better yet, keep your journal on a password-protected document on your hard drive, than having to vent your thoughts online.
When on the verge of exploding in anger, humor may not be the best time to poke its funny head, but if there is one thing that can surely break the heat, it is laughter. Try to see the funny side of things when exhausted at work. Fighting with your spouse again? Sometimes throwing in a little humor into the argument may make him suddenly remember why he loves you in the first place.
If you feel that you are constantly angry and may have lashed out at other people more than once a week, you might want to consider seeking the assistance of a psychiatrist. Looking for Anger Management classes in your neighborhood is a good idea, too. Lashing out is a violent behavior which should be best handled by a health care professional.