Insecurities and fears are constantly around. You have to know your partner really well for you to see if he/she is nursing fear or insecurity.
And when you do notice this, then you should waste no time in giving them a morale boost.
Here are six ways you can improve your partner’s self-confidence:
Never run out of praises
Kids love to be praised by their parents. In the same way, adults still crave for some of that positive affirmation every now and then. Not from their parents, but from their partners.
Praise your partner sincerely, even for the small things he/she does. Show him/her that you’re his/her biggest fan. You might be surprised of what this does to your partner’s self-esteem.
Be careful with criticism
Remember, it takes seven positive comments to outweigh one negative. Be very careful when you’re giving constructive criticism to your partner.
You must let them know that part of the support you give each other is to make each other be better persons. Talk about your fears and weaknesses, and work them out together.
If you’re unsure about giving constructive criticism, DesignTaxi.com has a great article on the seven keys of helpful criticism. Use it as a guide in talking to your partner.
You’re in a party, and one of your partner’s friends makes a bad joke about him/her. Ill humor might be funny, but to your partner, it may have a different effect. Instead, try this: Contradict that bad joke. Shift the conversation from ill-humor to a public praise of your partner.
He/she might not show it, but your partner would deeply appreciate this. There’s nothing more empowering and uplifting that public praise.
Ask for their opinion
Any person wants to be needed at some point in their lives. When you know that your partner needs you, it gives you a boost of pride and self-esteem. In the same way, show your partner that you need him/her. Ask for their opinion about things, and listen to what they have to say.
This might be subtle, but it can definitely improve your partner’s self-esteem.
Listen with ears and heart
Whenever you have your small chats, always make your partner feel that you’re really into the conversation. Never listen half-heartedly. This makes your partner feel insignificant and less important than the newspaper you’re reading.
Don’t allow distractions when you’re having your small talk. It may be a small thing for you, but it’s a huge deal for your partner. Knowing that you’re listening attentively helps your partner improve his/her self-confidence.
Psychcentral.com has a wonderful article on how to listen more and why it’s important between couples.
Relationships shrivel and fall apart when you don’t communicate with your partner. Part of this communication is your verbal support and encouragement. Actions may speak louder than words, but that doesn’t mean you won’t say anything anymore.
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Create a venue where you can be open to each other, where you can tell everything and anything to your partner.
The best relationships last because the couples fully support and understand each other. They complement one another, and bring out the best in each other.