According to Family First Aid, the Kaiser foundation reports that 50% of teenagers feel pressured about sex in relationships. Peer pressure could be quite alarming especially for parents knowing the terrible consequences it may bring.
Peer pressure is the influence you get from a group, whether friends or not, that allows you to change your behavior,attitude and even decision-making skills. Almost all people go through peer pressure in their lives especially during the teenage years.
Yet not all surpass this pressure all the time. Most teenagers fall in this trap and change their lives forever. As early as today, guide your child as he/she goes through this stage. So how do you help your child overcome peer pressure.
A high self-esteem increases one’s worth in society. Once confident, a child feels he is capable of making decisions all by himself. When one believes in himself, he isn’t afraid to show who he really is. He doesn’t have to follow others because he knows he needs not to impress other people.
To boost self-confidence in your child, appreciate even the tiniest things he does in school. Make him feel that you are proud of him and that you believe that he can do greater things.
Socialize with the right friends
As a parent, know your child’s friends. Is your child being bullied? Or is your child always alone at school? These are some things parents have to know about their child when they are away. He might have the wrong friends who push him.
If you feel your child is experiencing peer pressure, encourage him to find new friends in school. He might have found that sense of belongingness with the wrong peers. But make him realize that real friends does not force you to do things you do not like to do.
Talk it out
Peer pressure happens because one does not feel the freedom of expressing one’s self. Together with a high self-confidence, one can learn to say “no” when being pressured. If you do not like how other people influence you, then say it out loud.
Also, parents with children on pressure, talk to your child about the problem. Let them express how they feel and what they are planning to do about it. A constant and open communication with your kids make them feel secure and confident.
Focus on something else
Teach your teen to divert one’s pressure to something productive. If he finds he is not happy with the peers he belongs to, then encourage him to find activities that increases his self worth. Example would be joining sports activities. It does not only divert his attention to another set of people but also improves his health as a whole too.
Teenage years are the most crucial part of being a young adult. Having a peer group is not bad since it is with them that we find a sense of belongingness. What’s important is that we do not let them control and influence us on what we really want and do not want to do.