The current society is hugely successful in making people believe that they have to act in a specific way to be accepted or loved. This spurred the culture of comparing yourself to your peers. It has destroyed the self-esteem and lives of a lot of people.
Don’t let it destroy yours. Here are 10 ways on how to stop yourself from comparing to others:
Recognize it’s an unhealthy habit
Before you can stop yourself from comparing, you need to know why you need to stop: it’s not healthy. Comparing yourself to others, living a life filled with insecurities is the fastest way to destroy your self-esteem. Your worst enemy is yourself. Turn that concept upside down, stop comparing, and be your own best friend.
Tell yourself that imperfection is okay
So what if she has a better contour than you do? For all we know, that girl also has her share of insecurities in her head. Ever heard of “Nobody’s perfect”? That’s true. So embrace your imperfection. It’s what makes you unique!
Everyone is different, down to the last gene
You’re different from every other person in this realm, and even science can prove it. Why compare yourself to others when you are made differently? You are unique. Embrace that thought.
Focus on your life path
Some people need distractions to fill their heads instead of negative thoughts. If you truly need to be distracted, focus on your goals. An idle mind breeds negativity. Think of your future and your dreams.
Be aware of your weaknesses
To stamp it totally out of your system, you have to be aware of where it starts. Be aware of your weaknesses. Everyone has their own set of weaknesses. Remember #2? Everyone has their own share of imperfections. Learn from them, and don’t let them rule you.
Concentrate on your strengths
Now make a list of the things that you know you can do. Each person is blessed with numerous talents, whether it’s singing, dancing, convincing other people, or doing Hoola-hoops. Be proud of yourself for your own unique abilities.
Look at the list you just made. Then, be grateful. Don’t ask your parents, yourself, or a supreme being why you are the way you are. As Bruno Mars said, you are amazing just the way you are.
Practice complimenting others
When you can’t see the good in you, see the good in others. Compliment them to make them feel good about themselves. This positivity will stamp out envy from your system.
Never be afraid to be exactly who you are
Being different is okay. Individuality and diversity make our race meaningful. So don’t be afraid to show your true colors. There are people who have loved you, and will love you, for everything you are.
Do things that make you happy
Make a list of the silliest of things or activities you have done. Keep it a long list of little crazy things. These are the things that make you smile. Do them more often.
Never let the world tell you, whom you should be. You know exactly who you are and what you need to do. Don’t let others ruin the unique beauty inside you. Nourish this beauty and inspire other people.